How I am managing toxic relationships with Bill Cosby rape apologists

I’m sure my relationship to Bill Cosby and his brand is similar to that of millions of other people. Before I reached adolescence, he’d already taught me weekly life lessons as Cliff Huxtable on The Cosby Show and made me laugh with his G-rated comedy routines. To show how deep my family’s appreciation of the Cosby brand goes, my grandfather even has two cats named Rudy and Bud. However, I’ve taken many steps back in my support – for obvious reasons.

Valerie Castile, Philando Castile’s mother, on Instagram: “F*ck the police!”

The police officer who shot and killed Philando Castile last July was found not guilty. Despite a recording of Castile’s last words and a lengthy history of him basically being harassed by local police, no one will be held responsible for his death.

In other instances of police violence, we often see the parents and loved ones of the victims being used as mouthpieces of local leaders seeking to pacify any tensions in the community. They set them up at a podium and instruct them to ask for peace ad privacy, essentially dismissing the anger felt by everyone else.

Philando Castile’s mother has not let herself become one of those people. 

Philando Castile Flickr

The system isn’t failing us because it isn’t ours

One of the earliest lessons I learned as child was “you can’t win if you don’t try.” The logic showed me that the critical ingredient to success was actually doing something to be successful. Now, as I look at the repeated miscarriages of justice where it concerns slain and oppressed Black people in the United States, I don’t see the system as failing. It just isn’t trying and was never meant to address the grievances and harms committed against Black people.

I hate having to write that, just like I hate having to write about a 32-year-old Black man having his life taken because of anti-Blackness and systemic racism only to have his killer walk free.

Yet, here we are.