The Onus of Belonging: On Disability, Disney Princesses, and Finding My Tribe

By: Sarah Jama

There comes a time in any healthy, developing friendship when a shift from acquaintance, to friend, to close friend—and if luck is at hand—to sibling or family occurs.  The concluding shift, in my opinion, can only occur once one is made to feel thoroughly seen, thoroughly visible— flaws and all—by the counterpart in question.

For my friend Aisha and I, the shift happened in a dingy elevator of the downtown public library.

Friendships and Mirrors and Birds…oh my.

Growing up, my grandmother always told me to be careful who i let into my circle. Then, i didn’t understand why she was so intent on keeping me away from those “fast-tailed” girls in her neighborhood. The immediate result of my social isolation was that i was teased for being “too stuck up” or thinking that i was “too good” to hang out with them. The lasting result was that i am now extremely guarded.

i realize that this picture is not related to my post content but the bad grammar and the cats made it too good to pass up, really.