A Black Womyn's Desire for a White Man
A Black womyn grows up developing a hatred for the language accessed by the majority of Black men. I’ve heard about many occasions where the Black man has no chance with a womyn of certain standards using his familiar dialect. They know the call-outs very well; “ay lil mama” separates the scrubs from the eligible. We haven’t even considered the appearance of these men that drive the daughters of the slave trade away, but the focus on pick-up lines reveals enough. To the extent that approaches like “excuse me miss, my name is (blank)”—in other words, comments that use “proper” English—are a bare minimum for relationships, these womyn in particular want a man that’s white.
Black slang signals something that particular Black womyn must escape. Those that I’ve talked to recognize the fact that successful people speak impeccable English, White English. Indeed, the language is not ours, so we do not determine the acceptable sentence structures outside our own communities. No one can blame Black folks for wanting to be apart of the other community, especially when ours doesn’t have the prestige and wealth of Lincoln Park or Gold Coast. However, that prestige is not worth stifling and devaluing our creativity. African American womyn completely disown a portion of Black culture and submissively adopt White values when they uncritically dismiss men that talk “ghetto”.
Wow, this post almost makes me embarrassed to be a black male. almost. so on behalf of all black man, i’m going to apologize for this thoughtless, tasteless, and simply puzzling post. I am sorry ya’ll had to read this, I really am.
Signed,
Real Black Man
Wow, this post almost makes me embarrassed to be a black male. almost. so on behalf of all black man, i’m going to apologize for this thoughtless, tasteless, and simply puzzling post. I am sorry ya’ll had to read this, I really am.
Signed,
Real Black Man
After reading this article, all I see is a faulty premise and illogical conclusions, as evidenced by the following: “To the extent that approaches like ‘excuse me miss, my name is (blank)’—in other words, comments that use ‘proper’ English—are a bare minimum for relationships, these womyn in particular want a man that’s white.'” I’m sorry, when did treating a Black woman like a lady and with respect become something exclusive to whiteness? Is “ay lil mama” the way your mother raised you to speak to a woman? Give me a break. This article does nothing more than demand credit for something that certain members of a generation have yet to earn. It’s not about “stifling and devaluing creativity,” or anything even close to that. It’s about maintaining the values that seem to be waning among my peers—men and women alike. True, Black vernacular is a deeply engrained part of Black culture. But Black women are not “completely disown[ing] a portion of Black culture and submissively adopt[ing] White values” when they demand the same respect that their own mothers demanded and received from their Black fathers. If your own mother hasn’t told you, and your father hasn’t either, I have a few words of wisdom: Learn your history, and then do better.
After reading this article, all I see is a faulty premise and illogical conclusions, as evidenced by the following: “To the extent that approaches like ‘excuse me miss, my name is (blank)’—in other words, comments that use ‘proper’ English—are a bare minimum for relationships, these womyn in particular want a man that’s white.'” I’m sorry, when did treating a Black woman like a lady and with respect become something exclusive to whiteness? Is “ay lil mama” the way your mother raised you to speak to a woman? Give me a break. This article does nothing more than demand credit for something that certain members of a generation have yet to earn. It’s not about “stifling and devaluing creativity,” or anything even close to that. It’s about maintaining the values that seem to be waning among my peers—men and women alike. True, Black vernacular is a deeply engrained part of Black culture. But Black women are not “completely disown[ing] a portion of Black culture and submissively adopt[ing] White values” when they demand the same respect that their own mothers demanded and received from their Black fathers. If your own mother hasn’t told you, and your father hasn’t either, I have a few words of wisdom: Learn your history, and then do better.
“African American womyn completely disown a portion of Black culture and submissively adopt White values when they uncritically dismiss men that talk ‘ghetto’.” It’s not about dismissing black culture in favor of white culture, but about wanting someone to be polite and treat them with respect. I might as well mention that impeccable English is not “White English,” but it is simple, “English.”
“African American womyn completely disown a portion of Black culture and submissively adopt White values when they uncritically dismiss men that talk ‘ghetto’.” It’s not about dismissing black culture in favor of white culture, but about wanting someone to be polite and treat them with respect. I might as well mention that impeccable English is not “White English,” but it is simple, “English.”