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It’s not just straight men: We all have to reckon with internalized femmephobia in the wake of #MeToo
By Maximillian Matthews “Don’t hit me up if you are fem… no soft shit.” “No offense to you but NO FEM, soft, questionable dudes etc. MASC dudes only!!!” “Please be masc. I’m not into feminine dudes at all. Carry your purse to the next dude’s house.” If you’re reading this, it’s too late. We have […]
How femmephobia and the gender binary caused me to hate myself
By Latonya Pennington Until recently, gender identity and expression made me feel like a mannequin that has to be dressed up and put into poses. It started when my mother would make me wear this pink, puffy dress when visiting my dad while he worked and lived overseas. The dress just didn’t feel like me. […]
Being “That Gurl”: Respectability, Transness, and Femme Politics of Everyday Life
By: Chaz Barracks, PhD In a poignant dialogue between two Black trans women who are media influencers, TS Madison and Alexis Sno Legend refuse the respectability politics and binary thinking that often constrain mainstream Black queer representation. Together, they demonstrate how Black queer people reclaim agency and use the digital space to perform and be […]
Being a bi grey asexual means continually redefining desire away from limiting social constructs
Editor’s Note: June is LGBTQ Pride Month. At BYP, we will be exploring gender, sexuality, transgender issues and queer theory, and we are interested in publishing works that address these topics and the things surrounding them. We want to hear from you! Send us your pitches at info@blackyouthproject.com By Latonya Pennington I knew that I […]
Gay men need to be better allies to women combating male violence
by Josh Rivers Content Warning: This essay includes discussion and description of sexual violence, with details that could be triggering. “You do not have to be me in order for us to fight alongside each other. I do not have to be you to recognise that our wars are the same. What we must do […]
Why you should watch ‘Hook Ups’, a new queer, intersectional web-series about love and dating
by Arnetta Randall I think the more identity boxes you check, the more you yearn to see people like yourself in the media. For me, its young, Black, educated, queer characters on the screen. Even though we now have television shows like Queen Sugar, Love Is, Insecure and the groundbreaking Pose, there is still a […]
The bittersweetness in Junot Diaz’s #MeToo moment and how men traumatize women on their way to healing
by Briana L. Ureña-Ravelo Content Warning: This essay mentions of r/pe of a child I just read Junot Diaz’s essay about his childhood rape and the years of sexual, romantic, and relationship trauma and toxic patriarchal behavior that followed. I applaud him opening up and owning to some really deep, dark trauma on a significantly […]
We need to talk about gay men using body types to conform to heteronormative gender roles
by Siete Saudades I ran into a client of mine on the tube recently. She was surprised to see me in London, of all places. Normally, I see her in New York. I am a spiritual mercenary, and this client normally receives quarterly divinations from me, so we began to chat about some upcoming goals […]