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The Black barbershop is both toxic and intimate for cishet Black men
by Da’Shaun Harrison Disclaimer: this piece was written with the intent to create a productive dialogue around intimacy and attraction. It is not to say that the connection between barber and client is inherently sexual, but rather that the erotic/intimacy/attraction operate on a spectrum.
Comic: I’m waiting for Black conspiracy theorists to turn their attention towards cisheteropatriarchy
by JeCorey Holder Cis straight people have all kinds of enthusiasm towards organizing think-pieces and deep-dives into government conspiracies, secret societies, and grand hidden stratagems about why their favorite homophobic rapper or sexually predatory celebrity was killed or arrested. I’m talkin’ paragraphs on why “Lil Tinky” or whoever was a crucial part of some grand […]
Your vagina deserves better than cishet patriarchal myths
by JeCorey Holder
Reimaging consent, for Black cis-het men, in a world where touch can kill
This essay discusses sexual violence and mentions r/pe by Donnie Moreland I must have written this sentence ten times before settling on the question of this piece, as the only way to begin—what does consent look like, in a world where touch can kill? This isn’t an universal inquiry, but a meditation on that which […]
Comic: The cishet obsession with children’s genitals is really weird, and transphobic
Soft Content Warning: Physical Trauma involving babies (circumcision) and vague allusions about adult fascination with underage genitals. by JeCorey Holder So I’ll just go ahead and ask: when are straight people going to unpack their weird obsession with children’s genitals? In the same vein as people who claim a firm pro circumcision stance and then […]
Comic: Men are well aware of why feminism is needed, they just refuse to admit it
by JeCorey Holder
Black folks don’t need a nuclear family to be legitimate
It’s Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week and, as per usual, the miserable trolls have crawled out of their pitiful caves to smear their shit on any and everything that might make people feel happy, accepted, and seen. Trolls, of course, typically believe in nothing. They simply enjoy a perpetually contrarian existence, and actively seek to make […]
Black non-monogamy is a pre-colonial practice
Valentine’s Day is tomorrow and as usual it’s got me reflecting on how utterly diabolical consumerist culture is, how it influences and perpetuates our constant need to measure who is most worthy of love, affection and gifts. And why we think it is our business to begin with. It also has me deeply bitter about […]
Comic: Even with human trafficking, cis straights conspire to paint trans women as monsters
by JeCorey Holder It all started among The Straights on Facebook. Let me set the mood. The rest of us were all minding our magical, stylish, non-straight business and I was enjoying a particularly fragrant blueberry tea. I saw a friend of mine going off about a woman’s post that went as follows: “Thousands of [...]
What Tamar Braxton’s comments about men not wanting sex reveal about compulsory (hetero)sexuality
Tamar Braxton has issued a non-apology following some recent comments in which she declared that men who lay beside women for several nights without initiating sex are secretly gay. On Instagram, she posted the following: The text reads, “The truth is ladies that these dudes out here really do be gay!! It ain’t enough money, […]
Virginity and hymen myths must be challenged to protect Black teens like Deyjah Harris
This essay contains discussions of sexual coercion & violation, as well as invasion of sexual/medical privacy I used to go to church when I was in college. Not because I wanted to, but because I felt obligated to. I grew up in “the church”—of the Southern, Black Non-denominational Christian variety, and I hadn’t yet escaped […]
I wish Black folks could mourn in our own little bubble
by Indigo In the early hours of October 17, 2019, United States Representative Elijah Cummings (D-MD 7th District) died of complications related to long-term health conditions at age 68 at a hospice center in Baltimore, Maryland. Representative Cummings has represented Maryland’s seventh district since 1996, Kweisi Mfume preceding him prior to becoming President of the […]