On being left for white men

By Myles E. Johnson

“What man wants to lay down and watch the world burn in his bedroom?” – Warsan Shire

Often I gaze at myself in the mirror to ensure that I am present, that I recognize the face looking back at me, that I haven’t acquired any new scars, and my face hasn’t gotten any wider. I feel at risk of being a ghost, working and yelling while believing I am resisting, when I am just haunting.

New Series Shows the Beauty of Black Queer and Transgender Love

Black queer and trans* folks are often excluded from mainstream ideals about love and romance. Their deviation from the White heteropatriarchal “norm” means that many folks in these communities rarely see images of themselves reflcted back on the silver screen, in TV series’, or in other media in popular culture. That’s why NBC’s new series “Living Color: Love is Revolutionary When You’re Black & Transgender,” a first entry in the “NBCBLK “Love is Revolutionary” series is so timely and necessary.

In a world where trans folks are still murdered for merely existing, this series dares to spotlight the beauty in these loving relationships. While this will not cure all the issues many folks in the United States have had historically, and still have presently, with queer and trans* love, it is definitely a beautiful expression of visibility for individuals who are left out of the notion of love altogether.

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Jenn M. Jackson is the Editorial Assistant for The Black Youth Project. She is also the Editor-in-Chief and co-founder of Water Cooler Convos, a politics, news, and culture webmag for bourgie Black nerds. For more about her, tweet her at @JennMJack or visit her website at jennmjackson.com.

Nobody’s Greater Than You

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Brace yourselves.

You might need some protection when you step outside your door today.
It’s cold out but people are colder.

As you have your morning breakfast or lunch or dinner, depending on
what side of the world you live on, be sure to have a side of IDGAF
next to your toast.

Why the black man will never tell you he wants commitment

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The long-held belief that black women are starved creatures who continue to be overlooked when it comes to love is sickening. It doesn’t matter if they are successful or average, pretty or standard, the idea that women are just sitting around waiting to be selected by a man who has his pick of the litter is the universal presentation that we see when it comes to African American relationships. In just about all aspects of life this philosophy is present. Like the time that ABC Nightline featured a report on why so many successful black women were single. Or the many movies that reinforce the notion that black women are either desperate for a relationship and are the last choice for a life long partner.

A young orphan’s plea for adoption

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Davion Navar Henry Only is 15 years old. While most teens his age desire the next “it” item, he just wants a family.

So on Sunday, his case worker drove him to the local church in St. Petersburg.

Dressed in a black suit, Davion entered the doors of St. Mark Missionary Baptist Church in hopes of walking out as part of someone’s family.

Boris Kodjoe’s Deal Breaker? Weight Gain

Most would agree that cheating, abuse and drug habits qualify as legit relationship deal breakers.

Actor/Model Boris Kodjoe has a less intense anti-toleration.

Kodjoe recently opened up to television personality Cherise Nicole about his marriage no-no and let’s just say it’s more likely to happen than not.

Two Men Tie the Knot in What is Being Called “First Traditional African Gay Wedding”

Tshepo Cameron Modisane and Thoba Calvin Sithol recently tied the knot in what is being called Africa’s first traditional gay wedding.

Whether that’s the case is unknown, but images and video of the event are still striking and promising.

Tshepo and Thoba, both 27, will reportedly have a private ceremony later this year.

From the Huffington Post:

“The great step that we took in our relationship as a gay couple was introducing each other to our families,” Tshepo told Mamba Online in February.

High School Wrestler Without Arms or Legs Wins First Match!

St. Paul, Minnesota teenager Caleb Smith had to have his legs and arms amputated after a bout with a rare meningitis blood disorder at the age of three.

But he hasn’t let that stop him from pursuing his passion, amateur wrestling.

And at a mere 120 pounds, Caleb is good; he’s quick, strong, and (most importantly) in possession of a tirelessly positive attitude. He recently won his first match.