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At a first glance from the average black female, I’m dateable, if the thought comes across her mind. However, if my fingers should ever cross the knuckles of a white hand, I am dead to her; I am no longer a “brotha.” In this case, you are witnessing a type of black on black hatred […]

So take some notes and get your shit together, T.I. Every emcee in the game aspires to Jay-Z’s success. They study the way he rhymes and they study the way he does business, but no one studies the way he lives. Success and chronic criminality do not mix. Don’t believe me? Just ask DMX. Listen to It’s Dark and Hell Is Hot the next time you want to throw a middle finger to the law.

Soon after President Barack Obama was elected, the lie of post-race America began. it was this idea that because we had a black president in office, we as a nation, had somehow transcended race. But the very idea of a raceless (it isn’t even a real word) society is impossible. However, for many, the uptick in interracial relationships coupled with a bi-racial President in office is overwhelming evidence that society has moved on from the big “R.” Fortunately, we still have reminders.

I was in college and in the closet when The L Word first aired on television. My then girlfriend and I got the hookup from the dorm cable guy and each sunday night we would curl up in her twin bed to watch the episodes. Beyond the uber-feminine, white, west-coasty crunchy vibe, somewhere along the […]

httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wO4yZg0I_S4&feature=related I am single black church woman. I go to church on Sunday morning because I need to hear a word from God. I need to know that there is hope in the world. I need to know that when “my body is ailing” as the old folks say and my childhood traumas—daddy beating momma—keep […]

httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xk5BXZOCJhY&feature=related I am very excited about the première of the third season of True Blood—dashing Bill, virginal Sookie, stereotypical of black women Terra, sinisterly charming Eric, and rogue-like Jason Stackhouse. To say the least, I am a fan, but not a cult-like fan. I would never attend a True Blood movie première dressed as a […]

The jury’s still out on whether or not Drake is some kind of savior of Hip Hop, or if he’ll even be able to sustain the momentum he’s been building and match the success he’s already achieved. But kudos to Drake for sticking to his guns, and crafting an album that doesn’t comprise for mass appeal or pander to the charts. There’s no denying that Drake is the real deal, at this point. And there’s no denying the power of Thank Me Later either. Because it’s good. Really, really good.

“Fuck the Police!!!” I have lost count. I couldn’t even tell you how many times I have heard the above phrase in my life. In my experience, people in the hood have a distaste for the police. I am not sure of the exact reason. In the house that I grew up in, people who […]

The Dark Side of Hookups, “Friends With Benefits” and F— Buddies Black Aids Institute | May 10, 2010 Concurrency. Outside of social science circles, this wonky word doesn’t have much meaning. But increasingly, scientists are taking a hard look at the connection between concurrent relationships and the spread of HIV (and other sexually transmitted infections) […]

So, that we are crystal clear I do not run behind black men. I do not beg them to spend time with me. I am not desperate for their attention, money, or third arm. I am so tired of Nightline, CNN, ABC, and yes the great matriarch himself, Tyler Perry, telling me that I am […]

I grew up in a house with two loving parents. My mom and Dad have been together for 26 years now and I don’t think they’ve left the honeymoon phase of their relationship yet. So I’ve never been confused about the notion of Black Love. To me, it was always a Black woman and a […]

“Spelman thou name we praise STANDARDS and honor raise we’ll ever faithful be throughout eternity . . .” Reflecting on my twenty some years of existence, I must say the best decision I’ve made thus far was to attend Spelman College in Atlanta, Georgia. Not because it was the blue print for the show, A […]