Dudes outright refuse to address and fix the violent culture among themselves.

-JeCorey Holder
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by JeCorey Holder

They say conflict and competition are part of being a man. They say that violence is a natural part of masculinity. This is accepted behavior among men, and encouraged behavior in boys.

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Meanwhile, men see women living their best life because they refuse to deal with men and their brazen toxicity, and masculinity is “under attack!”

Femme-identified LGBTQ people merely *exist* and masculinity is “under attack!”

Hell, some men hear a man sing in a decent tenor and suddenly masculinity is “under attack!”

Masculinity is centered around the disrespect and subjugation of all things feminine, female, and non-male, but women and LGBTQ folks creating safe spaces for themselves is somehow an unwarranted act of aggression?

Please, help me understand.

Anything feminist, pro-femme, pro-queer, or any sort of progressivism is somehow an “attack on masculinity,” but dudes outright refuse to address and fix the violent culture among themselves. How do men have the audacity to claim there is a war against masculinity when masculinity has a bodycount that is miles high, centuries long, and continues to be a threat to this day?

We’re doing this because of toxic males. We’re erecting these barriers and maintaining these safe spaces while they tear each other to pieces outside, and try to get in to tear into us, too.

But in their eyes, we are the threat?

I am confused.

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Gamer, geek, and social activist. JeCorey Holder has been weaving tapestries of shade and fury since the early 2000’s. Pro-LGBTQ, pro-black, and pro intersectional feminism, he is full of feelings and opinions that try to call out and tear down the oppressive status quo.